Sunday, August 5, 2007

So Sorry!

I'm so sorry you guys! I really did mean to post every day while I'm gone. I don't know how but somehow the day always gets away from me and then when I do sit down to post...I don't have my thumb drive with me. Why don't I go get it? Usually because Kyler is asleep in the room where it is and I am NOT going to wake him up. I really hope to be able to post a picture for you tomorrow!

I had an absolutely fantastic time with my grandpa the last couple of days! I love and miss him so much. As a kid we would go to visit my grandparents (my grandma died 11 years ago) at least once a month. I would spend a week or two with them in the summer. He is 81 now and still amazes me with what he is able to accomplish. For one...he drives the 4 1/2 hours to see me! Because my mom died almost 10 years ago I thought I'd ask him if he would share something with me about my mom. Anything he wanted....a memory of her childhood...anything. Well, with tears in his eyes and a little choked up, he said to me that she was loving, kind, and generous and just so classy. He totally hit it on the head...my mom was just one incredibly classy woman and I so hope I represent her well. He went on to share a couple of childhood memories about her...it was just a fantstic time! It was also incredibly neat that Kyler was with to hear her talked about in such a loving way.

Ladies...I know that relationships with our mom's can be so hard but I just need to say that you need to find a way to make your relationship with your mom work. I love my mom so much but while she was here we often would butt heads (my dad says it was because we are so much alike!) and I so wish I would have just chilled out and appreciated having her around. Now I feel like I've been cheated out of the relationship with her that I should have and could have had. So, please, take a moment and appreciate your mom in the way that she deserves!

Off my soap box and onto bed I go. I'll *see* you all tomorrow!

6 comments that make my day!:

Ashley said...

Your so right! A situation has forced me to live with my mom, even though I am married, and having to take care of her makes it so hard to like her sometimes. We fight a lot, but she turned 60 this year and that makes her feel so old to me now. I'm like you, my mom and I are so much alike. My sister in law says were like an old married couple who fights all the time. lol.

So glad you were able to see your grandpa!

diane mcvey said...

That is so neat, that you got to visit with your Grandpa and ask him about your Mom. My Mom died 27 years ago, when I was in my early 20s, and I still miss her so much! She was also a very classy lady...I know just what you mean!
Ladies who have their Moms have no idea how sad it is to NOT have her...God bless you always! :)

itchsix said...

You can't stress this enough! I am another Proof that wished I would have bent over backwards to make things work with my mom. She passed away 3 years ago on the 27th and it seems like an eternity. I can honestly say a day, and probably an hour doesn't go by that I don't think of her. Many times I could just hang my head in shame.

I just have to focus on the fact that I will see her again someday.

Colleen Schaan said...

Hi Lori...you have such a great way with words and I enjoyed reading your post about your grandfather...how wonderful that you have such a great relationship.

Great advice about moms too...

Anonymous said...

That's a lot easier said than done at times. What do you do when you can't even have a conversation with your mom without her criticizing? She makes comments about the clutter in my house but for years every time she would come over she would bring stuff that she didn't want anymore & leave it here. If I say something about something new I got, she asks what I am going to get rid of. (Whenever she buys a new piece of clothing, she gets rid of a current item) Of course, she didn't teach us that as we were growing up but thinks we should do it now just because she does. It's really hard to get along with her when she puts down my dad at every opportunity.

It's a lot easier to say something like that but a lot harder to do in real life. I have a friend who makes comments like "At least you still have your mom" if I complain about something that my mom did but she still complains about things that her mom did when she was alive.

Wife2TJ said...

Wonderfully said. I love my mom so much she is one of my closest friends. I only get to see here twice a year now which is so hard on me, but I am lucky to still have her here and apart of my life. It's still very hard on me to not get to see her a lot so I can't even imagine what its like not to have your mom here with you.